novelty

When is something novelty and when is it genuine desire and attraction?

This seems to come up in so many aspects of life from work to relationships to music and fashion. People have a natural curiosity about them. I think it is something a bit left over from our primitive ancestors. If a group is all excited about something, we all naturally flock over to "see what is going on". We see it everywhere. But now that I am seriously DJing it is becoming very clear.

I have had a lot of friends want to see my DJ, but many have only come once. Most of these friends I have meet either at work or through some non-clubbing social network. They are genuinely surprised that I am a DJ and I think are just curious. I also enjoy clubbing a lot and going to other DJ's events. Of course being a western girl in a Tokyo club, I get hit on all the time. When I tell these guys I am a DJ, sometimes they actually come to one of my next parties. But again this feels like a mix of curiosity and maybe hoping for....

But, to have someone hear my DJ and then want to come to my next party, that is completely different. I am slowly getting there. I am meeting more DJs or regular party people who hear me play, and then tell me after that they really loved my DJ play. I don't have a following yet, but I can feel it slowly starting to happen.

But I am definitely "one of the DJs" now. This is good. I am no longer a curiosity for the event organizers or other DJs. But I can also see now that I have exhausted the novelty factor with my non-clubbing friends. It cuts both ways.

Novelty phase is ending .... Next phase begins.